Social isolation

[Freddy81]

Hello everyone,

I'd like to share a problem, that many of you may face. After finishing the university, I was eager to start my own business, and that was successful - I have a populat website selling a popular utility and running the ads, and my income of $xxxx.xx is quite enough for good living in my country.
But for some time, I've noticed that I'm missing something important in my life - communication with real people. Being a whole day at home supporting the business, I stopped all my contacts and now see my friends, who are doing well with the girls and so on... But the problem is, that I realized it's too hard for me to begin just a simple conversation with someone now, and I understand that I lack communication...

If someone of you is working alone and is familiar with a problem of social isolation, can you tell how you cope with it? Your answers will be a great help and support for me.

Thank you.
Fred, 25 yrs.

[Dr. Adams]

I have long believed that being with, around and near other human beings takes almost continual practice. For most people, this practice is automatic. They have a large family and/or work and recreate among large groups of people.

Put someone in the house with an illness for several weeks, and the person has difficulty relating to others when again healthy.

Indeed, we punish people by putting them in "solitary" (isolation).

It sounds as though your work has placed you at a continual distance from almost everyone.

This could be resolved, to some extent, by planning activities that continually place you in the presence of others...gym, grocery shopping, walks in parks, etc.

[Freddy81]

Thank you a lot Dr. Adams, your answer was very, very inspirational for me. But it's always a tough task to make a first step into the right direction...

[Dr. Adams]

Interestingly, most of life falls into two categories:
1. Ceasing to do what is bad for you
2. Starting to do what is good for you

Fortunate are the few who do not find that daunting.