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sree
11-09-2003, 04:40 AM
Dear Sir,
I need to know the reason behind the act of a person who is a female.
My friend and her (the female) were very close.There were damn close which started as affection gradualy went in to sex.
They both were enjoying it and my friend had a lot of affection towards her which was uncomparable,my friend used to care for a lot REALLY A LOT.
One fine day(actually a bad day for my friend),that female said that she wont speak with her hearafterwards and if my friend comes and sees her then she would die..
After hearing all these my friend was totally shocked and was not able to tolerate the words she said to her and as she (that female)used all these words my friend stopped going to her house totally for her sake and i only know the pain my friend had and she was suffering without her a lot not in the physical sense that is not for sexual pleasure but THE AFFECTION she had towards that female was remarkable and i really pitty that female for loosing an affectionate person in her life.
Then my friend tried to speak with her but she is not responding to her at all and from other sources we heard that the female is totally angry on my friend and if she has said that if she sees my friend again she would beat her with her sleepers.
Sir,i really cant understand what is going in her mind(female's) and we also thought that she would have gone wild because of the sexual relationship they both had and my friend also expressed her feeling that she is totally not for sex and leave all those things.(this message was passed on to the female by one of her closest friend.)
Now my friend gets frequently depressed on thinking of this incident and she really wants that female to realise her true affection towards her,thats what she expects.
Could you please tell me what can be further done and reason for the female's action and how my friend and her can be reunited?
The age difference between them is 10 and they were known to each other for 2 years and the sex aspect started in the last 6 th or 7 th month and it went on like that and the relationship broke totally.
Awaiting for your reply.
Thanks

Dr. Adams
11-09-2003, 08:35 AM
It could well be that she associates guilt with her sexual relationship with you. She impulsively got into a sexual relationship with you, felt shame and remorse, and the only way she sees to resolve this is to avoid all contact.

It appears that you have reassured her repeatedly, and this has had no effect. You may have to accept that the relationship has ended and that she wishes no further contact.

sree
11-09-2003, 11:53 PM
Dear Sir,
Is there no other way to reunite?