impulse control disorder

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How can impulse control disorder be diagnosed?

[Dr. Adams]

Impulse Control disorders are listed elsewhere on psychological.com. Diagnosis is based upon a constellation of behaviors which meet certain criteria. Thus, if a person has numerous behaviors that meet the criteria for an impulse control disorder, then that diagnosis is applied. But I am not certain how this relates to Marital Discord where you posted your question. Perhaps you can clarify.

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For years, items disappear from my home. The items are things like, keys, bras, clothing, food, and even stuff I need for my car; like antifreeze and oil. One time I couldn't find my keys, and I looked in the pocket of the shorts I had on the previous day(over 50 X). A few days later, I found the keys in the shorts but in a pocket that I never use; (they were carpenter shorts). That was about five years ago.

I haven't actually "caught" my spouse from taking them, but when I confront him, he either gets defensive or ignores my inquiry. I don't accuse him of taking things anymore. He also (this is disgusting) wipes mucas, pimple pus and boogers on me and other things in the house. When I ask (confront) him about it, he tells me I don't know what Im talking about. He starts arguments and its to a point now, where I don't argue anymore, I just live with it. I do wonder if he has a mental illness of some kind or if its me going crazy.

[Dr. Adams]

Sounds like you should discuss this with your family physician and get a referral, then determine if your husband will comply. The problem is not his disorder but his unwillingness to address it.