Wanting to know

[sojourner]

Dear Dr. Adams,
What physical challenges or psychological issues (if any) underly premature ejaculation? High metabolic rate? Childhood sexual trauma?
Do you find it typical for a man to hold his wife responsible for the condition?

Thank you

[Dr. Adams]

Performance Anxiety. Men worry about sexual "achievement". When they have a failure, they ruminate (go over and over it) increase their anxiety, and as a result, it occurs again.

[aswab]

Reich, et al

For whatever reason, they (men) may be suffering from anxiety regarding holding sexual charge. It's worth looking at the whole realtionship to sexuality and relationships, and see where this goes.....

S

[sojourner]

Dear Dr. Adams and aswab,
Thank you so much for your insights on this. It appears to me, now, that the husband owns responsibility for his condition since it existed before the relationship began. And i agree. It is highly probable that the husband suffers from anxiety. Indicators from his childhood tell me that he received a directive to "hurry up". So, it's plausible that he may be experiencing conflict.
I look for the most compassionate answers. Primarily, for selfish reasons. This one works for me! And probably not, but it sure would be a relief if each conducted his own recovery. :D

many thanks,
sojourner