fatherof1
12-26-2007, 10:51 AM
I am divorcing my wife of three years. We became pregnant out of wed lock and we then decided to get married. She has two boys of a previous marriage that I was excited to be a father to...they still call me Dada. Our marriage was a horrible one with lots of arguing, inconsistent parenting, alcohol use by both parties. I have since quit drinking, done extensive personal work, including parenting work. My soon to be ex is sleeping with my step-brother and has him there while the boys are home. My parenting after divorce class was very specific about the long term effects of such a relationship on the children. It has been extremely damaging to our family...neither she nor he seem to care about that. I have watched my father break down crying over what his son is doing and the damage it has done. I have done some research and reading on sociopathic behavior and find a great amount of detail that fits her personality and behavior. I have requested a Child and Family Investigator in hopes he can make some kind of determination. I feel that she is not really interested in what is best for the children and will continue to jump from guy to guy and the kids will be put in the middle of it. This has been her behavior of past relationships as well. Any comments on how to proceed with such a person that is completely indifferent? She will attack if she feels backed into a corner...her own comment.