sexual problem

[john_learner]

my problem is that i lose my erection when my partner starts showing her desire.
With my ex girlfriend we got around that by stimulating each other by hand until i was at the point of no return--

But am now single and it is happening again-- I have a perfect new girlfriend but fail her every time. Twice now--am running out of excuses--sick etc.. I want to get at the root of the problem.

Any advice?

[Dr. Adams]

Sounds like as expectancy placed upon you increases, your capacity decreases. You first need to eliminate any medical problems that could be the cause.

[ada1in]

[QUOTE=john_learner;760]my problem is that i lose my erection when my partner starts showing her desire.
With my ex girlfriend we got around that by stimulating each other by hand until i was at the point of no return--
But am now single and it is happening again-- I have a perfect new girlfriend but fail her every time. Twice now--am running out of excuses--sick etc.. I want to get at the root of the problem.
Any advice?

[Dr. Adams]

The first order of business would be to have your primary physician determine if there is a medical reason for the ED such as hypertension, diabetes, etc. The second would be to discuss this with the woman with whom you are involved since directly or indirectly she is a "co-conspirator" in the problem. You may, thereafter, need to talk with a psychologist who specializes in sexual disorders to determine other causes for the problem and approach that will be effective for you and your current girlfriend.