http://www.psychological.com/forums/ en Thu, 17 May 2012 22:34:42 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.psychological.com/forums/images/misc/rss.png http://www.psychological.com/forums/ http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?754-Misuse-of-Prescription-Narcotics-by-Teens&goto=newpost Sun, 13 May 2012 14:47:09 GMT "In adolescents aged 12 to 21 years in the United States, the extramedical use of prescription pain relievers, or the use of these drugs to get high or for other unapproved indications, peaks at mid-adolescence, new research shows.

"In the epidemiological studies to this point, the suggestion has been that these are issues mainly for kids in the senior year of high school and college-aged young people, but what this survey data are showing for the first time is that actually, the peak age for starting to use these drugs extramedically is closer to 16 years," senior author James C. Anthony, PhD, from Michigan State University, East Lansing, told Medscape Medical News." ]]> Addictive Disorders Dr. Adams http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?754-Misuse-of-Prescription-Narcotics-by-Teens http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?753-Trouble-trusting-therapist-I-don-t-think-she-likes-me&goto=newpost Tue, 17 Apr 2012 18:36:08 GMT Hi. I'm new here and was just looking to possibly get some advice or find someone who can relate. I've been in therapy off and on for the last 8 months with a female therapist who is the same age as myself. So far therapy has been a positive experience for me. I think this lady is a kind/caring person, and she's good at her job.

My problem is kind of complicated. For instance I was recently out of therapy for a few months because I couldn't afford it. Things have been really bad since I left therapy so I emailed her and told her I needed to come back. So in my first session back with her after two months she showed up half an hour late. And I honestly got the vibe that she was secretly hoping I'd just leave. It was something about her demeanor that's hard to explain. She just seemed a little disappointed that I was still there. There was a moment where I asked her if I was the only client she had scheduled for the day and she said if that were the case she probably would have rescheduled, but then she quickly interjected that she really was glad to see me. The way she said it just sounded really disingenuous. Like she just said it to be nice, but she didn't really mean it.

I know being a therapist must be a really hard job. I mean you basically have to act like a compassionate, understanding person every single day, even when you might not feel like it. There are just other things about the way she acts that lead me to believe she doesn't really like me. I am very socially awkward, I don't pay her the full fee she usually charges, and my circumstances are uniquely challenging. Sometimes I think she pities me, but maybe I'm too much trouble and she finds me to be a boring person. I say boring because since day one, every time we do a session she probably yawns at least 6 or 7 times every single time. There are other body language ques that clue me in to the fact that something about me is off-putting to her. I'm not sure what I do to cause her to feel that way. I don't make a lot of eye contact. I'm usually always looking down at the ground. Maybe that makes her uncomfortable? I don't know. I have poor self esteem too so it could certainly be partly that. But I have good instincts about people most of the time, and I really don't think I'm imagining this.

Would love to hear any comments or advice from people who can relate or maybe even hear a therapist's perspective. I don't want to tell her these things because it would be way too embarassing, and I don't want to hurt her feelings, especially if I'm reading her wrong. I also don't want to switch to another therapist because like I said she is really good at her job, and there are so many details in my situation it would be hard to start over with someone new.

Thanks for reading my long message if you did! ]]> Psychotherapy Forum greyarea http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?753-Trouble-trusting-therapist-I-don-t-think-she-likes-me http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?752-Introduction&goto=newpost Mon, 02 Apr 2012 04:20:13 GMT Hello All, me new here, feel good to be a part of this community, and me very happy to join this forum, hope i will learn some good things here and also share my knowledge... Hello All, me new here, feel good to be a part of this community, and me very happy to join this forum,
hope i will learn some good things here and also share my knowledge... ]]> Psychotherapy Forum Alton http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?752-Introduction http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?751-Irregular-erection-and-loss-of-feeling-during-sex&goto=newpost Sat, 24 Mar 2012 17:53:22 GMT I am 29 years old an at this moment I feel that I cannot continue with my sexual issues any more and need some kind of help. I started being sexually active 10 years ago when I was 19 with a girlfriend and after that have had mostly sex with girlfriends, just a few physical an non emotional... I am 29 years old an at this moment I feel that I cannot continue with my sexual issues any more and need some kind of help.
I started being sexually active 10 years ago when I was 19 with a girlfriend and after that have had mostly sex with girlfriends, just a few physical an non emotional relationships.
The trouble is that since the beginning of my sexual activity at the age of 19 I have never felt a full erection, with all my partners, of at least one that is lasting. It has always been enough to penetrate, achieve an orgasm, but the satisfaction diminished with time. I can say that through all this time I lived having sex with my penis at a bit over half of what it could be and that has always influenced pleasure both for my partner and I.
Now the trouble is that the condition got worse and many times I am not able to penetrate or even feel anything with my new girlfriend when I penetrate her. She is very trusting and supportive and we have a very good relationship, we can talk about everything, especially sex and these issues. But now, with all this I feel troubled because we are starting a life together and these things matter. We both have a lot of sex drive, but then things aren't as we expect and this has been bringing me down.
I thought that maybe I have a physical problem since it's always been like this, but I'd like to know how to be sure.
Masturbation pretty much falls under the same problem, I can get a fair erection, then it starts going down until the orgasm when I get a little bit more erect.
I also have two kinds of erections, if that is possible, one that I'd say is mostly 'hard' inside, like a stick inside my penis and another that is more like that my penis expands everywhere and the glans penis becomes quite big, contrary to the first kind. This second one gives me much more pleasure.
For now these are by biggest worries concerning sex, I have others concerning the current relationship I have, but because these are more than ten years old, I thought I should start there.
Thank you for your time, this became too much for me to handle now. ]]> Sexual Dysfunction diniscurtis http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?751-Irregular-erection-and-loss-of-feeling-during-sex http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?749-New-Jersey-Psychotherapists-list&goto=newpost Tue, 27 Dec 2011 15:35:02 GMT Can you please provide me the list of New Jersey's best Psychotherapists list? ]]> Psychotherapy Forum sabeeh5052 http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?749-New-Jersey-Psychotherapists-list http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?748-Strange-mix-of-ED-and-PE-Help!&goto=newpost Thu, 22 Dec 2011 02:11:49 GMT About four years ago, I was in a relationship where I lost my virginity at 20 and had a fairly normal sex life. After the relationship ended, I had no sex or even real chance of having sex until about a year ago when I made up my mind that I wanted to get out there and see what the world had to... About four years ago, I was in a relationship where I lost my virginity at 20 and had a fairly normal sex life. After the relationship ended, I had no sex or even real chance of having sex until about a year ago when I made up my mind that I wanted to get out there and see what the world had to offer.

I was incredibly attracted to the girl, but after some foreplay, could not get an erection strong enough to penetrate. It was devastating and I never got the chance with the girl again.

The same situation happened to me three more times in the past year with one successful "one night stand" type of event that I was able to perform but it was cut short as we decided it was a bad idea since I didn't have a condom.

I am now in a healthy, loving relationship where I haven't had much trouble getting a proper erection. The problem has happened a few times but I've chalked it up to drinking, or being tired, etc. However, my erections are still not very hard and sometimes take some finagling to enter. The new problem is that I am experiencing very premature ejaculation, perhaps only about 15 or 20 seconds before I have to withdraw, sometimes being able to suppress my ejaculation, but most of the time failing. I'm not sure if the weak erections and PE are related, if I'm in my head too much, or what. But I don't really know what to do and it is beginning to cause problems in my relationship.

I used to be on anti-depressants but haven't been on them in four to five years. I used to view pornography and masturbate at least once a day but have completely given those things up for approximately the last two months as I have read about a "90 day reset" to get your mind on a more normal sexual appetite not based on fantasy and pornography. Any advice would be helpful. Also, what type of doctor would I go see about this kind of problem? Thank you. ]]> Sexual Dysfunction ohyeahok http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?748-Strange-mix-of-ED-and-PE-Help! http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?747-Aggressive-Children-amp-Health-Rish&goto=newpost Sat, 19 Nov 2011 16:08:35 GMT "Aggressive behavior in children may be linked to an increased risk for health problems 30 years later. In the study, factors included children who were "mean and cruel" toward others, those who were "too shy to make friends easily," and youngsters who were "especially nice.

Childhood aggression should be considered a health risk when designing interventions to improve public health, particularly those targeting children and families.

They note that possible explanations for these poor outcomes include leaving school prematurely with less education about health, lack of high school education and the resulting increased likelihood of high-injury manual jobs, and the stress factors associated with experiencing lower education combined with low income. Deficits in executive functioning and impulse control may be an underlying factor.

A life-long approach to teaching children, teenagers, and young adults appropriate self-care and age-appropriate ways of managing their stress and impulses may effectively prevent poor health outcomes later in life."

CMAJ. November 14, 2011 ]]> Disorders of Childhood Dr. Adams http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?747-Aggressive-Children-amp-Health-Rish http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?746-Advice-please-on-where-to-go-from-here&goto=newpost Wed, 26 Oct 2011 17:00:57 GMT Hello, I would really appreciate some advice please. I am a young professional and have been having psychotherapy through work. This is for problems at home and emotional difficulties. I had this last year, and there is only a limited amount of appointments you can have. I went back again and am... Hello, I would really appreciate some advice please. I am a young professional and have been having psychotherapy through work. This is for problems at home and emotional difficulties. I had this last year, and there is only a limited amount of appointments you can have. I went back again and am entitled to further psychotherapy (6months of therapy), however my therapist has suggested I see someone privately, on a longer term basis.

I am a little confused as the therapist gave me 3options 1) No therapy (T said this would not be the end of the world as I am functioning well)
2) Long term therapy privately (T said this is the option they are leaning towards) OR 3) further sessions with current T (however they felt that as they could only give me a limited amount of therapy, it might not be worth it).

I contacted the other therapist the original therapist recommended however they have no vacancies, so I do not know where to go from here. I am tempted to contact original therapist again but I am worried that they would not be happy to see me, and feel that I may be wasting their time. My original T said that they would be happy to do further work with me but I am not sure whether they were just saying that to be polite.

Another problem as that I tend to become obsessive ( I have not discussed this before) and now feel strangely attached to the original therapist and have even looked up information about them (A LOT of it) online, on facebook etc.

That is something also preventing me from contacting the original therapist.

Thanks for your advice,

Bellatrix ]]> Psychotherapy Forum bellatrix http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?746-Advice-please-on-where-to-go-from-here http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?745-Dual-relationship-with-therapist-feeling-trapped&goto=newpost Tue, 27 Sep 2011 14:05:32 GMT I have been seeing my psychotherapist (male) for almost four years. After two years of psychotherapy I started writing my own poems, which was a great fun and a new way of comunicating at first. My psychotherapist seemed to appreciate what I wrote and gave me feedback. As my writing became more... I have been seeing my psychotherapist (male) for almost four years. After two years of psychotherapy I started writing my own poems, which was a great fun and a new way of comunicating at first. My psychotherapist seemed to appreciate what I wrote and gave me feedback. As my writing became more like real poetry, one day he sent me an SMS saying he composed a song for his rock group using one of my poems as lyrics. I was so excited :) about it - since then he has used around 10 or more of my lyrics for his songs. But it also started making troubles in therapy. Suddenly there was something secret between us that should not be talked about. I also found out that accepting invitation to a concert was not a good idea at all - I was so nervous and unhappy while being there. And not long after that I fell in love with him (or at least it felt like that) - which initiated a new terror of ups and downs, feeling suicidal and harming myself. I told him about what I felt, and he was accepting of my feelings at first. But later, my doubts about his objectivity and distrust grew stronger - it seemed to me he didnīt have a capacity to hold all these difficult feelings, giving me lectures more than listening. And now I feel trapped, guilty, angry, disappointed... like being lost in a forest. Where is the good way out? ]]> Psychotherapy Forum Kalabaronco http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?745-Dual-relationship-with-therapist-feeling-trapped http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?744-Dual-relationship-with-psychotherapist-feeling-trapped&goto=newpost Tue, 27 Sep 2011 14:04:27 GMT I have been seeing my psychotherapist (male) for almost four years. After two years of psychotherapy I started writing my own poems, which was a great fun and a new way of comunicating at first. My psychotherapist seemed to appreciate what I wrote and gave me feedback. As my writing became more... I have been seeing my psychotherapist (male) for almost four years. After two years of psychotherapy I started writing my own poems, which was a great fun and a new way of comunicating at first. My psychotherapist seemed to appreciate what I wrote and gave me feedback. As my writing became more like real poetry, one day he sent me an SMS saying he composed a song for his rock group using one of my poems as lyrics. I was so excited :) about it - since then he has used around 10 or more of my lyrics for his songs. But it also started making troubles in therapy. Suddenly there was something secret between us that should not be talked about. I also found out that accepting invitation to a concert was not a good idea at all - I was so nervous and unhappy while being there. And not long after that I fell in love with him (or at least it felt like that) - which initiated a new terror of ups and downs, feeling suicidal and harming myself. I told him about what I felt, and he was accepting of my feelings at first. But later, my doubts about his objectivity and distrust grew stronger - it seemed to me he didnīt have a capacity to hold all these difficult feelings, giving me lectures more than listening. And now I feel trapped, guilty, angry, disappointed... like being lost in a forest. Where is the good way out? ]]> Psychotherapy Forum Kalabaronco http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?744-Dual-relationship-with-psychotherapist-feeling-trapped http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?743-No-desire-after-a-few-months-together-again-and-again&goto=newpost Tue, 27 Sep 2011 13:47:19 GMT I am a healthy 29 year old guy and since I have been 19 I have had an ongoing sexual/relationship issue. *Relationship 1* - Was great lasted 18 months never had any problems at all. *Relationship 2* - Ok for about 8 months, then moved in together, in general I lost interest but one of the... I am a healthy 29 year old guy and since I have been 19 I have had an ongoing sexual/relationship issue.

Relationship 1 - Was great lasted 18 months never had any problems at all.

Relationship 2 - Ok for about 8 months, then moved in together, in general I lost interest but one of the last times we were together I damaged my frenula. This resulted in me being unable to have sex for 18months whilst I waited for surgery. Had surgery and was quite numb but physically ok.

Relationship 3 - Had no desire to have sex. Very close with gf but very little desire. Lasted about 18months. My gf found this rejection extremely upsetting but i felt I had no control over it. We encountered some money issues latterly and immediately after we split she became an escort and was pleased that 'some men would pay Ģ400 a night to sleep with her' but was frustrated that her own boyfriend seemed unable.

Relationship 4 - No desire after the first few months, we lived apart and only had time to visit on weekends. I used to drive up and see her every weekend. We were very close but desire was pretty low. I went to see a RELATE counsellor with limited success and then an EFT practitioner (which worked a bit). I was very pleased with this progress. A month later after being together 18 months we split up. I found out that she had slept with quite a few guys behind my back during the previous few months. The EFT doesn't work.

Relationship 5 - Very needy insecure girl that would lash out and be quite nasty. I became quite depressed through being told how worthless and useless I was. No sexual desire at all. I finished with her although I was made to feel exceptionally mean and guilty.

Relationship 6 - Same girl as relationship 1. She is lovely, we live together and pretty much everything is ok. Desire was ok for first few months and now has gone. This rejection is most upsetting for her/us.

Why do I subconsciously stop wanting sex whenever a relationship begins to feel comfortable. I don't have any performance issues or body hang-ups. It simply is that I have no desire. I have been taking a testosterone booster as we wondered if I could have low testosterone levels. It hasn't made any difference. I have pondered on what I need to do to fix this as I seem to hurt the ones closest to me. I seem to project any number of possibilities to the situation without being able to realise a proper answer.

I wonder if I try to fit my own relationship into the model of my parents loveless relationship? They divorced when I was 13 after being very unhappy, bored and lacking any kind of intimacy for many years.

I don't want this for me and every time this becomes problematic I feel an accumulation of sorrow which I have felt over the last 10 years.

Any ideas? ]]> Sexual Dysfunction HiRoller http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?743-No-desire-after-a-few-months-together-again-and-again http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?741-Great-food-and-disorder&goto=newpost Tue, 16 Aug 2011 04:31:35 GMT Some of the protein enriched food and other body building required food like more than two eggs/day,egg white,meat,fish,milk/soy milk.shakes and some energy drinks.It really creates some of the eating disorder , How to prevent? Some of the protein enriched food and other body building required food like more than two eggs/day,egg white,meat,fish,milk/soy milk.shakes and some energy drinks.It really creates some of the eating disorder , How to prevent? ]]> Eating Disorders Forum Hussey01 http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?741-Great-food-and-disorder http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?740-i-suffering-from-early-ejaculation-problems&goto=newpost Tue, 02 Aug 2011 16:47:45 GMT hii frends i suffering from early ejaculation problems....plz somebody give advise what to do??????????????? hii frends i suffering from early ejaculation problems....plz somebody give advise what to do??????????????? ]]> Sexual Dysfunction jacob622 http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?740-i-suffering-from-early-ejaculation-problems http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?738-Omega-3-and-Anxiety&goto=newpost Sun, 24 Jul 2011 20:43:40 GMT "Increasing omega-3 intake may lower both anxiety symptoms and proinflammatory cytokines in healthy young adults...omega-3 may have potential anxiolytic benefits for individuals without an anxiety disorder diagnosis.

...previous researchhas suggested that omega-3 can lower depressive symptoms in patients diagnosed as having clinical depression...both depression and anxiety have been found to increase the production of proinflammatory cytokines...Secondary outcome measures were lowered anxiety and depressive symptoms, as well as lowered negative mood symptoms associated with taking stressful exams."

Brain Behav Immun. Published online July 19, 2011 ]]> Anxiety Disorders Dr. Adams http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?738-Omega-3-and-Anxiety http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?737-my-long-strange-story&goto=newpost Wed, 20 Jul 2011 05:04:17 GMT I'll give you the short version first. There's lots more I want so say, but later.

Middle of last year, a friend found me standing outside unable to speak coherently. Was taken by ambulance to a hospital where they only gave me a blood test (yes, really). I was out of it and don't remember much, but I ended up in the home of a family member. My symptoms were mostly like that of a stroke (no previous history either for myself or my family, and I'm only 50). A little bit like Alzheimer's. I had trouble figuring out how to dress myself, shave and shower, type, write or use a telephone. I had brought my iPod but didn't know what it was. Went to many different kinds of doctors, most worthless. Amazingly, a CT scan showed no brain damage. After about six weeks I started to get better and was able to return to work. The last doctor we visited was an internist who speculated a drug interaction. I stopped taking any meds but essential.

The sexual part: My libido had been slowly diminishing for about 10 years. When I bounced back from the illness, my libido returned almost to the levels of when I was a teenager. Then over about six weeks it diminished to almost nothing.

I was always hornier than all my buddies and kind of proud of it. Frankly, lust felt good. Too bad I wasn't very persuasive with girls. I might have had a lot of wonderful memories. Now I'm older and a feeling that I assumed would never go away has deserted me. At my age I don't meet many single women. I'm adrift like a ship with no wind in its sails. I don't know if it's psychological or physical. I don't know what to do.

Well, enough for now. Comments? ]]> Sexual Dysfunction Wayfarer http://www.psychological.com/forums/showthread.php?737-my-long-strange-story