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    No feeling in penis?? No sexual desire?

    Iam a 21 year old male, I dont have any sex drive bascialy. I can sit here and watch hardcore porn and my penis wont move at all, It doesnt get excited. Even when I beat off , It feels numb and theres no sexual pleasure there. Same for sex, It doesnt feel good? And im not really turned on by it, My penis just feels numb. and I lose errections all the time and struggle to get it up in hte first place.


    This is my first girlfriend ive been with her 6 months , and my problem is still with me, I love her , iam think she is really hot. I really dont know whats wrong with me?????

    I dont really have a sex drive. Im not sure what is wrong , Im going to the doctor again. I already got my testerone checked and it was fine , But iam going to go there again and ask for a full blood test. Anything else i should ask for?I really feel something is wrong. I was horny and fine before I met my girlfriend , But soon as I went on the first date I lost my sex drive? But I can tell you right now I was awfully stressed about my first date. Plus I had court worrying my mind.

    Thoughts?

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    You are saying that you lost your sex drive after meeting your new girlfriend and that testosterone level is WNL.

    The reference to "court" was unclear.

    Are you saying that you believe that there are psychological factors that are undermining your sex drive?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dr. Adams View Post
    You are saying that you lost your sex drive after meeting your new girlfriend and that testosterone level is WNL.

    The reference to "court" was unclear.

    Are you saying that you believe that there are psychological factors that are undermining your sex drive?
    Yes I lost my sex drive after meeting my girlfriend. By mentioning court I was just bascialy saying , I was under stress. Iam not sure... If its psychological. I donno if its possible , if its one of those situations where you want it so bad , then you get it infront of you , and its like ...ahhhh.. Ok not interested.

    Iam really not sure. All I know is now , Bascialy masturbating to hardcore porn doesnt really do anything for me , I dont have any type of sexual desire bascialy I could care less about sex. Iam just not interested.

    Ive booked into the doctors again , but im not exactly sure what will come out of it.

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    If you had no sexual interest, you would not see it as a problem...you would, in fact, be indifferent.

    You seem to be saying that you do have sexual interest, cannot perform and that it began (this time) with the new girlfriend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dr. Adams View Post
    If you had no sexual interest, you would not see it as a problem...you would, in fact, be indifferent.

    You seem to be saying that you do have sexual interest, cannot perform and that it began (this time) with the new girlfriend.
    I had sexual interest before the girlfriend. Now I met her I lost it.

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    So then you have now approached the diagnosis of your problem; everything changed once the new girl entered the picture. So, the problem is tied to an emotional conflict regarding that relationship. Time now to consult a psychologist in your area and delve deeper toward the goal of resolving the problem. Good luck.

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    I too suffer with this numbness during sex and have for over 30 years. And, if I may, here is what I have learned about it.

    A numb penis during intercourse, if not caused by a physical problem, is usually a sign of lower than optimal desire. There is enough desire to become erect but within seconds or minutes of penetration a person suffering with this begins to lose sensation. This often results in the inability to ejaculate although despite the numbness many men can continue to have an erection. Although, once realizing they are not feeling what they should, the stress of the situation can shut down an erection too.

    This can be puzzling because during foreplay men who experience this do get a good erection and have lots of sexual desire for the partner and feel more than able to continue on to successful intercourse and it can be a bit of a mystery and very frustrating to find that they can't "finish" Also, men believe that this is a physical problem with the penis itself when in most cases it is not but rather a problem which is psychological in nature.

    As to the cause of this sudden, post foreplay lowered desire, it could be many things, stress, anxiety, fear, fatigue, drugs and alcohol. Adding to the mystery is the fact that some causes which are psychological in nature can be subconscious. For instance, some people have a fear of intimacy which often has its roots in childhood which in turn can cause sexual anxiety during the most intimate part of sex. But, they often don't feel anxious at all. In these cases the body reacts to something that the man is not even consciously aware of which, I believe, is what happens to me as I never feel any kind of anticipatory or general anxiety either during foreplay or intercourse before the numbness starts. Not to get off youngmales's topic too much I'd also like to add that for me I can have successful intercourse with any given woman a few times over a period of weeks or months before I start to lose feeling in my penis. Unlike yougmale though, my sex drive is always high and I have never had any problem at all while masturbating.

    My point is that what seems to be a physical "plumbing" problem can often be caused by other, psychological factors. To quote the old cliche "the brain is the body's biggest sex organ"
    Last edited by Jojo115; 12-26-2009 at 10:01 AM. Reason: clarity

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